Is competence the new confidence? by Moe Abdou


Confidence is a muscle, and as such, it gets stronger as you exercise it.  Still, few of us wake up each day with a deliberate plan, no matter how small, to enhance our sense of self.  Being the eternal optimist, I’ve always believed that a positive frame of mind is an important catalyst for one’s confidence, yet despite its impact, its more like caffeine - once the initial stimulus wears off, the impact fades away.   

Confidence is one of those traits that while being highly personal, is perhaps best learned by observing those we most admire. One such person for me is Walt Disney who once said that “somehow I can’t believe that there are any heights that can’t be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true.  This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four C’s.  They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence.  When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable.”  Not only did Disney condition his mind to see possible what most believed impossible; more importantly, he never stopped learning how to create amazing experiences for his guests.  Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic is one of the most prolific social scientists of his generation, and in his book, Confidence:  Overcoming Low Self-Esteem, Insecurity, and Self-Doubt, he reveals the surprising benefits of feeling less confident.



Further Reading
  • Seedling Relies on Childhood Curiosity to Inspire a Creative Team — On a recent flight home, I spent over an hour browsing a children’s play website, completely enamored by sets like Design Your Own Superhero Cape and Invent Your Own Insects. After sharing Seedling with everyone I know, despite few of my friends having children, I wondered why the brand struck a such a meaningful chord with me.
  • Why Five Founders Made the Decision to 'Choose Must' — The ‘A-ha moment’ in my shift to adulthood (Translation: Post Grad life) was reading Elle Luna’s story The Crossroads of Should and Must. I stumbled on Elle’s narrative while dealing with one of my then weekly quarter life crises. Her invigorating call to choose must - “the intuition that explodes inside of us” -  put my existential fears in perspective.
  • Why Jonathon Triest is Following His Must with Ludlow Ventures — One of the greatest days of our lives is when we stop subscribing to what we should be doing and start living our Must. I learned this lesson from Elle Luna, an artist and designer who shares her story leaving her job as a designer at Mailbox, in The First Round Review. She previously worked on redesigning Uber’s mobile app and spent time at Medium as well.


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